45 Surprising Truths About Women That Men Discovered In Relationships

By Jhoana C

This article was originally published on bettermanly

You’ll never know the opposite sex unless you spend a lot of time with them and live with them under the same roof. There are countless stereotypes, and if you want a healthy relationship with your partner, you need to go beyond these stereotypes.

Aside from a ton of understanding and compromise, a lot of give and take is also necessary.

Men’s eyes were opened after getting into a relationship with women, and here they are, sharing the things they found out. Some of them are hilarious – but most of the time, they’re 100% true. If you’re not in a relationship yet, you might want to read this before you start dating, as it’ll help a great deal to understand the ladies.

There’s always hair on shower walls

If you’ve never had a relationship with a woman, some of their quirks can be surprising or even alarming. One of them is the sight of long hair on the shower walls. Don’t worry; no one is shedding. It’s just normal for women’s hair to get on all kinds of surfaces.

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But we completely disagree with claims that all women clean their hair off shower walls by swirling the hair on the wall. Some may do that, but that’s a practice that is completely gross to others. To each their own, we suppose.

Arguments are not always win-or-lose situations

Contrary to what some people think, women included, arguments don’t always have to be win-or-lose situations. It is not a competition, and being the first to say sorry or wave a white flag doesn’t make you any less of a person. Some arguments are not worth losing your relationship over.

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Sometimes it’s better to compromise and find some common ground from where you can work things out. Some people even say that, when talking about problems, it’s better to sit next to each other instead of sitting on opposite sides as it gives the feeling of ‘us against the world’ instead of ‘me versus you.’

Too close for comfort?

When you’re living with a woman, it can get claustrophobic, especially when you spend every minute of the day with each other. At times, it’s good to be apart from one another, even for just an hour. A little breathing space is always a good idea.

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You wouldn’t want to be with your significant other when they have to go to the toilet and do their business. The smell would be something you wouldn’t want anywhere in your nose, and we don’t even need to tell you how they would look.

The scarcity of hangers is all too real

When you live with a female partner, you’re going to realize that no matter how many hangers you have, you’re not going to have enough hangers. We’re not saying all females love shopping, but the majority of them do. They just can’t get enough of it.

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The funny thing is that no matter how overflowing their closet is, they always tell you that they have nothing to wear. To them, ‘nothing to wear’ means more than a hundred shirts, over a dozen jeans, and a hundred pairs of footwear.

Guard the Tupperware with your life

From what we have heard, some men like to throw Tupperware away. Why would you do that if there’s nothing wrong with them in the first place? They come in handy when you need to store leftovers, chips, sweets, and other stuff.

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Regardless if you’re living with a woman or a man, you should always remember that it’s not acceptable to get rid of things before getting the approval of the owner. Always ask if it’s ok to give away, donate, or throw away things.

They can fart in front of you

If you thought that women were dainty little creatures who are always on their best behavior, whether alone or with others, you’re badly mistaken. They can also be wild, unhinged, and crazy in a good way – and other times in a bad way.

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One thing they are not afraid of doing in front of their partner is farting in their presence. Yup, that’s true. As gross as it may sound, there are occasions when there’s just not enough time to get out of the room and head to the bathroom to rip one out.

They spend tons of money on makeup

Yes, women like to look good – not for men but for themselves. Looking good boosts your confidence and makes you feel like you can conquer the world. Nobody wants to go outside looking like they just got out of bed and didn’t even care to wash their faces.

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Makeup can be expensive, especially when you buy the top brands, but that’s an investment. You need to look all dolled up for special events, for work, for meeting clients, and even in your own home. Women deserve to look good whenever they want to.

They turn houses into homes

They say that if you give women one thing, they will turn it into something more. Give them the groceries, and they will turn them into delicious meals. Women also turn houses into homes by making them more welcoming places.

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Men in relationships noticed that when they lived with a woman, their homes were cleaner and smelled nicer. Women’s presence also led these men to appreciate their homes better. Without a doubt, a woman’s touch works wonders, but that doesn’t mean that guys shouldn’t help a bit.

They make people start caring for themselves

Women generally go the extra mile to make sure they look good. Aside from applying makeup, they also apply a ton of skincare products, so they’ll look good even when they start to age. They also take care of themselves by eating right, exercising, and resting.

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This rubs off on their partners, spouses, and boyfriends. Men who live with women say that they started taking better care of themselves. They now apply sunscreen before going out, and they also apply lotion on their bodies – things they never did before.

Women don’t like bras

This is something women of all ages, races, and backgrounds can agree on; bras are the bane of the existence of females. No one wants their two babies restricted in tight contraptions, but sadly, there are places where that is not acceptable.

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So, to comply with the status quo, they have to wear bras, but as soon as they get in the door of their homes, off go the bras. Who needs them when you are at last allowed to let your babies hang free?

Your food is their food

Don’t be fooled by ladies who order salads during your first few dates because that’s not how it’s going to be when you start living together. Before you cohabitate with a woman, you need to understand that your food is going to become their food.

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Yup, laugh at that now, but you’ll soon realize that what we are saying is really true, especially when it comes to favorites, such as bags of chips and French fries. They will start vanishing from your plate soon, and your lady won’t ask if you’re okay with that!

They have problems finding a doctor who will take them seriously

This is one of the more unpleasant things about being a woman: times when medical professionals don’t take you seriously and tell you that it’s all in your head. Either that or they’ll blame any symptoms on that time of the month.

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Not everything can be chalked up to PMS; sometimes, it’s bigger and more serious than that. While yes, it’s true that women can be moody when they are on their period, the best thing men can do is to go with their partners to their appointments.

They have one room that’s almost off-limits to everyone

When you live with a woman, you’ll soon find out that there is one area of the house that is almost off-limits to everyone. Don’t even try to move things around or take things from that certain space, or else all hell will break loose.

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Most women responded that for them, this certain room is the kitchen. Since they spend the most time in it, they want to know where everything is, and it makes them angry if someone even tries to rearrange things in the kitchen.

Birth control messes with their body

Women generally bear the burden of birth control, but most men don’t even stop for a while to think about the things that birth control does to a woman’s body. If you haven’t heard the news yet, yes, it messes a woman’s body up.

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Birth control has several effects, and a few of the most common are nausea, bloating, headaches, breast tenderness, and weight gain. Don’t you think it’s about time that men also contribute to birth control? Vasectomies are reversible now, so maybe that’s a thought to keep in mind.

Some men have to be taught how to be good lovers

We think that this is something that applies to women, too, although it may apply more to the male species. The truth is that you have to let people know how to love you because the way they want to be loved might not be the way you want to be loved.

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Again, this all comes down to communication. It’s important to have open communication with your significant other and let them know what things please you and what things make you irritated or angry. The key is to talk and let the other person know how you’re feeling.

They change when their period comes

PMS, or premenstrual syndrome, is a real thing, and this is the name given to the collective syndromes women experience when their period is near. However, symptoms may vary from one female to another, but there are common ones to look out for.

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Men should be aware of mood swings, feeling irritable, bloating, tiredness, sleeping troubles, headaches, and changes in appetite or libido. Nothing can be done about these things, and men should just be patient and understanding. Trust us; your lady will love it if you’re nice to her during this time.

They are not that different from men

Don’t believe the hype: men and women are not that different. It’s true that they do things in certain ways, but they have the same goals in mind. They may rank things to be prioritized differently than men, but their list of priorities is more or less the same. 

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No, women are not a foreign and complicated technology that only a few people can understand or communicate with. You just need to have open communication with them, and things should flow smoothly. Well, notwithstanding the occasional arguments that all couples have.

Tampons are different from pads

Contrary to what most men think, there is a difference between tampons and pads. Aside from the spelling, tampons go inside the lady bits and absorb blood before it leaves the body. Pads, on the other hand, remain outside the body and catch blood as it leaves the lady bits.

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Men everywhere, take notes so that the next time your significant other needs you to run to the drugstore to get tampons, you know exactly what to get. We hope this doesn’t happen to you, but you can never tell when emergencies happen.

They fart just as much as the other sex

You may think that men fart more often compared to women, and to some extent, that might be true, but some women can fart just as much as men. Not all women feel embarrassed about passing gas in front of their partners.

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Of course, women won’t rip one out in public. But if you’re alone, it’s a different story, especially if you are very comfortable with each other or are already living with each other. Just make sure you don’t fart in front of each other when eating.

Women are good at remembering dates

This is true. Compared to men, women are much better when it comes to remembering dates. They remember the first time you asked them out on a date, the first time you kissed, the first time you spent the night together…and they remember these important dates every year.

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This is one of the reasons why they get upset when men forget to buy them gifts during their birthdays or on other important occasions. Women’s brains are just wired to remember dates, but this isn’t an excuse for men not to try.

They get through bathroom tissue pretty fast

It’s important to wipe yourself after peeing and wash your hands. However, not all men practice this, as gross as it may sound, and this has somehow led quite a few of them to notice that women get through bathroom tissue pretty fast.

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When you live with a woman, you better be prepared to stock up on bathroom paper. You wouldn’t want to end up being videotaped by people fighting with other customers over bathroom tissue. Nope, that’s not a good look on anyone.

Hugs work wonders on them

We’d like to think that this is something true of men, too, not just women. Hugs work wonders, especially if you’re feeling down and out. It releases oxytocin, also called the love hormone. Giving and getting hugs makes life much better.

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Hugging someone means you’re lending them support and that you are there for them no matter what happens. Giving support through touch reduces stress. Hugs can also boost your heart health because it reduces blood pressure and heart rate.

Don’t do what you want even when they say it’s fine

Women are sometimes a puzzle, and it’s true that they don’t always say what they want. There are times when they say one thing but mean something completely different, and when this happens, know that you’ve just crossed dangerous territory.

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When a woman tells you to do what you want, know that things will get ugly if you comply. You better do what your woman wants if you want to avoid trouble. We know that this is confusing, but there are times when women are confusing.

They are appreciative of gifts

Women are sentimental, and they appreciate gifts given to them. For the female species, it’s the thought that counts, so even if your gift is not the most expensive, women will love it just the same. However, men shouldn’t take this as a reason to buy cheap gifts.

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While there are women who care about material things, not all women care exclusively about money. As a matter of fact, some women appreciate handmade gifts way more because it means you spent a lot of time and effort making them.

They suffer during their periods

Needless to say, women go through a lot of changes during their period, not just emotionally but also physically. It’s not a walk in the park, and people around them notice just how their mood changes, so don’t take things personally during their periods.

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Men should be thankful that they don’t have to put up with monthly periods, and we’re not even going to talk about carrying a baby to full term. Regardless if their periods are heavy or light, there ought to be additional time off given to women during their periods.

Their presence means having to put the toilet seat down

When you have a woman in the house, it’s a must to put the toilet seat down once you’re done doing your business. Why? Because the bowl can be really cold and uncomfortable to sit on. And it’s highly probably that there’s man-pee on it.

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The lid must also be down because the last thing anyone wants is to have bacteria spraying all over the place when the toilet is flushed. Both men and women should be aware of this; no gender is exempt from cleanliness.

They get periods monthly

For some men, it’s incomprehensible just how frequently women have to deal with periods, but that’s an uncomfortable truth that the female species are familiar with. Generally, women get periods once a month and deal with premenstrual syndrome once a month too.

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Men don’t envy women when it comes to periods because they don’t want to deal with the pain, bloating, mood swings, and other things that come with periods. They are just happy sitting on the sidelines, and it’s ideal that they offer some comfort if they want a happy woman.

They often feel invalidated

Not only do women feel invalidated most of the time, but most of them carry unnecessary guilt. When you do something nice for them, they will likely say sorry or think that they don’t deserve it. Some even think that they need to give you something in return.

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When you have a girl like this in your life, you need to set them straight and tell them you are not doing nice things to get a reward. Make sure they know that you are doing these things because you value them and love them.

Small things mean a lot to them

Big things come in small packages, and when it comes to gift-giving, the biggest and most expensive gifts are not always the best. Sometimes you don’t even have to give physical gifts to make women happy. Gestures, hugs, and support are enough.

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We just would like to point out that this works both ways. Some men would rather be given the support and love they need instead of money. Be there for each other, especially during tough times, and you’ll have a better relationship.

Their brains are always working

Women’s brains are always working, and that’s a fact. They may be silent and look as if they are just staring straight into nothingness, but don’t be fooled – the wheels in their brain are constantly turning.  At times, they may even lose sleep over the constant thinking and overanalyzing.

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Men, on the other hand, can turn their brains off when they want to. They stare at the wall, and yes, that’s exactly what they are doing; staring at the wall and not thinking about anything at all. We envy men during these times.

Your hoodies also belong to her

Living with a woman changes a lot of things in a man’s life, and sometimes it involves your clothes. When you live with a woman, your clothes are no longer your property; they also belong to the woman you live with. We have to warn you that women love hoodies.

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According to the ladies, there is something special and indescribable about wearing their partner’s clothes. Perhaps it gives a sense of intimacy and proximity even if lovers are not in the same place at the same time. Spray your perfume all over your hoodies – your girl will love it.

They are not mind readers

None of us are mind readers, except maybe a very few. People won’t know what you think unless you tell them. People won’t know how you feel unless you let them know, and to make matters more complicated, some folks are not that expressive.

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If there is a certain way you want to be loved, you need to speak up. There’s no point in being silent and frustrated when sitting down and talking can solve your issues. Talk and compromise are the keys to a happy relationship.

They just want someone to listen to them

We know that most men are not very communicative. It baffles them when their wives, girlfriends, or partners come home complaining about their boss and their coworkers but they don’t like it when they are offered solutions. Pretty contradictory, right?

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What men don’t understand is that women just want a listening ear. They don’t always want or need solutions. They just want somebody to hear them out and hug them afterward, and then they will pick up after themselves and go on as usual.

They can be grosser than men at times

Not all women are sticklers for cleanliness, and some of them can be even grosser than men, even if out in public, you wouldn’t be able to tell. This is something men find out after being in a relationship with a woman for quite some time.

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Well, boys, we hate to break it to you, but this is true. Unfortunately, not everyone upholds high standards of cleanliness. Not everyone flushes the toilet after using it, not everyone brushes their teeth at least once a day, and not everyone flosses.

Women take so long to get ready in the morning

Women don’t just magically appear all made up; they spend a lot of time and effort in front of the mirror so they can look great. If you see them from the time they get out of bed to the time they walk out the door, you’ll be surprised.

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Their morning routine is not for the faint of heart, and the amount of products women put on their faces is mind-boggling for the male species. However, when you live with them and see how they look after getting out of bed, you start appreciating them more for all their effort.

They have insecurities

Insecurities are defined as having anxiety or uncertainty about oneself, and if you’ve ever been with a woman, you’ll notice that women seem to have a lot of these. Their looks, their weight, their appearance, and their status bother them.

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Don’t be like other men out there who take advantage of a woman’s insecurities. What you should do instead is not use those insecurities against them. Put them on a pedestal and celebrate them for being unique and shower them with praises.

They love hot showers

We’re not sure if this applies to all women out there, but apparently, the majority of the female population likes to take scorching hot showers and temperatures that are far too hot for men to handle. Do you agree with this?

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While a hot shower comes with plenty of benefits, such as better blood circulation, lower blood pressure, lower blood sugar, and improved skin moisture, it also comes with a lot of disadvantages, such as itching, redness, and skin inflammation, so moderation is the key.

They have an excellent memory

Women have an excellent memory, especially when it comes to things men say and do. They may not remember where they put their keys, but they can tell you what you said to them on October 18, 2017, at exactly 9:15 in the evening.

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They say that you shouldn’t dare test a woman’s memory because it’s a losing battle. Some would say this is stereotypical, but we’d rather think that not all women are alike. The other half of the female population can’t even remember what they said most of the time.

They shed hair like crazy

We say that this is mostly true of women; they shed far more than dogs do. Today the floor is clean, but check again tomorrow, and you’ll see it covered with hair. Men are not even sure how they still have hair on their heads after so much shedding.

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It’s normal for women to lose 50 to 100 hairs daily, but when a person sheds more than this, it can be a symptom of a medical condition. A few conditions can also result in hair loss, such as anemia, pregnancy, and thyroid disorders, so keep an eye out for your lady.

They are not always damsels in distress

Not all women are damsels in distress. As a matter of fact, women don’t need rescuing all the time. They are resourceful and intelligent creatures who are just as capable of getting out of a situation and solving their problems without anybody’s help.

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When they have problems, they don’t always need solutions, but they just want someone to listen to them, as we’ve mentioned previously. You don’t even have to offer them any advice; a listening ear is enough to make them feel better.

They are good at finding things

If you need to find out more information about something or someone, hire a woman because they will turn every rock over to get to the bottom of things. Most men, on the other hand, will say that they can’t find the keys even if they are staring right at them.

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Women, in this aspect, can be compared to a dog with a bone; they are relentless. Can’t you find something in the house? Ask mom because she knows exactly where it is and will scold you for minutes after handing that object to you.

Looks are not everything to them

Women don’t find men attractive just because of their looks. While it’s true that good-looking men can turn their heads and make them look twice, looks are not the only thing they consider important in a partner or a person.

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How you treat them and others ranks high when it comes to desirability. According to a poll, the things that women find attractive in a man are having a nice sense of humor. Mindfulness, approachability, and selflessness rank high too.

They always say nothing is wrong

This is one of the things we dislike about being a woman, pretending or saying that nothing is wrong when absolutely nothing is right. Even when our partners offer to talk about things, we say no because we want to process things on our own first.

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Women will eventually talk to you when they’re ready, and they’d like to remind everyone out there that this goes both ways. Women should also stop pressuring men into talking to them because they will do so once they are ready.

Your odor is pleasant to them

This is something that applies to both men and women. If you truly love someone and have a deep connection with them, their quirks are endearing to you, and their unique smell is pleasant to you. You can also recognize them by smell.

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The smell is not distinctly good or bad; it is just something that reminds you of your partner. It could be the way they smell when they’re sleeping next to you or their favorite perfume. No matter what it is, it’s something that makes you feel at home.

Their underwear doesn’t match all the time

Contrary to what most people see in movies or TV shows, women don’t always wear matching underwear. Nobody has got the time or energy for that, especially if you’re a female who has a bunch of other stuff to take care of.

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Men, you should know that bras and panties are not sold strictly as a set; women can pick and buy whatever they like. Nowadays, comfort is also an important thing to consider. Don’t expect your partner to wear a thong at home when she’s just chilling.