Relationships Can End, But Not All Were A Failure
A famous line from a poem talks about weighing your life in coffee spoons. You are pretty much aware of the song from RENT, which is about minutes within a year. Time is defined as pragmatic, and it’s determined in pre-set augmentations, which doesn’t change because you needed to shower right before going to work or you couldn’t find a parking spot.
The poem and the person who wrote RENT tell you that time is subjective and qualitative. Instead of calendars and watches, time can be measured as cups of coffee. The notion of time is borderline cheesy, soothing, and poetic in relationships, especially when they end.
It’s because, just like time, you cannot evaluate or define relationships by their longevity. Love is more about what you did that time and less about how much time you spent with an individual. Relationships are not just about how you felt and continue to feel. But it’s also about how well you will file the relationship with your memory’s archives.
A lover’s objective can be to gain knowledge about brand-new books and bands, meeting someone’s group of friends who are lovely, but not as splendid as yours. Wearing matching clothes, visiting a place you have never seen, and being cringy on purposes are also objectives of love.
But the objective can also be learning how to go on a separate path when that love is no more and cherish all the memories you had by keeping it where they should be.
In the end, just because the relationship was all about love-for-love rather than love-for-always, that doesn’t mean the relationship was a failure. When you break up with your partner, you don’t waste their time. Also, going in diverse directions will not reduce the loveliness of the period when you were together with the person.